Finding Love in ALL the RIGHT Places!
Author: Nanice Ellis
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Finding Love in ALL the Right Places! Are you Ready to Expand your Experience of Pure Love?
Definition of "Pure Love": an over abundance of self-love that spontaneously flows out to others and continues to effortlessly replenish itself.
How is Pure Love Expressed?
Pure Love can only be expressed through Love that has no filters and needs nothing in return. If love is expressed through fear, jealousy, scarcity or any type of need or expectation, it is not the true essence of love. It is a mere shadow of what it is meant to be. Pure Love can only be expressed through a clear channel.
How do I become a Clear Channel for Love?
Remember how old TV's use to lose their reception and get all fuzzy? You may have tried to watch your show through the fuzz, but after a short while, even your favorite show, couldn't hold your attention - or if you did manage to make it through the show, you found yourself to be terribly disappointed and maybe even feeling a little empty? Well, anything less than Pure Love is the same - it's like trying to communicate through a fuzzy channel for both the sender and receiver of that love. Pure Love can only be experienced by the giver when it is expressed through a clear channel. Pure Love can only be fully received by a clear channel as well. When love is filtered through issues, love is distorted, fragmented and just a sliver of what it truly is - thereby not being love at all. Pure Love is always complete - if it is distorted, held back or conditional in any way, it is not Pure Love and just a facade of its true nature.
We distort and fragment love when we need something in return for our love. In other words, if we expect the one we love to love us back, fulfill our needs in any way, or we put him or her before ourselves, love becomes distorted and fragmented. This is truly the number one reason why many relationships start off so amazing and soon turn to shit. In the beginning love flows so freely from both lovers, but as soon as the lovers start identifying with each other to get their needs met, love suddenly becomes conditional and therefore stops flowing. As soon as either person in the relationship starts looking to the other to fulfill their needs in any way an unspoken contract is created. In other words:
If I love you, you must take care of me and meet my needs - and if you don't, then you don't really love me. If I believe you don't love me, then I will have to hold my love back from you in order to protect myself. In fact, if you don't act the way I think you should act, then I know you don't love me - so why should I continue to love you?
It is easy to see that when one feels fearful that they are not loved and cared for, love becomes blocked and each person fights against themselves and each other. This is not Pure Love. Pure Love requires nothing in return - it simply flows because there is an endless abundance of love that flows out of self-love.
If Love is not growing, it is a clear indication that you are restricting it in some way - within yourself. Only through a perpetual "letting go" can love expand infinitely.
How do I give love to another?
You don't give love to another. That is the myth that has hindered the expression of love for a very long time. The truth is that you must love yourself first - unconditionally. When you truly love yourself in all ways without hesitation, interruption, excuse or fear, you become Love. You are love and the true essence of who you really are. This is how you "BEcome Love". You are the beloved you have been searching for. When you are Love, love overflows from you in ever renewing abundance and flows out into the world naturally. As love effortlessly flows from you, others can receive it and experience it deeply - as deep as they are open to it (which is not your responsibility or will you even care). Even if others are shut down to your love, it still reaches them on an unconscious level and begins to awaken them from their slumber. On some deep level they recognize it as their own true essence. Once that essence is awoken, a greater force leads in the direction of experiencing love fully - experiencing one's self fully. You can only experience yourself fully through Love. Without complete self-love there is only misdirection, confusion and blindness thinking it can see.
When you love yourself unconditionally and you own your power through knowing yourself, love is expressed and experienced as Pure Love. When you reject any part of yourself, you reject your whole self - and any love that is felt or expressed is just a facade. The more you deny yourself, the more love is denied. The more you accept and love yourself, and embrace who you really are, the more love can be expressed and experienced.
When you are filled with unconditional self-love, every being in the Universe can feel and experience Love through you on a deep level. When you intenuously focus on another, your love vastly enhances the experience of love for you and the recipient of your love. When love's recipient receives love openheartedly and without filters of any sort, love is magnified back to you and as it is magnified in you, you return it with even greater intensity. Love then expands exponentially in all ways - always. This is how love unfolds into the divine experience of God
Pure Love sees itself in everything and everyone - and feels enormous gratitude.
Pure Love clearly sees, deeply feels and absolutely knows that we are all part of the One. Pure Love knows that there is only One and everything appearing separate is an illusion. Pure Love has no doubt, questions, or hesitation in loving. Pure Love is true to itself and has nothing to hide or from which to hide. Pure Love is transparent. Pure Love knows that the only eyes you can ever look into are your own. Pure Love constantly replenishes itself without end.
How do I know if I am expressing Pure Love?
If love ceases to flow in any way, it was never really love to begin with. It was fear masquerading as love. As soon as the party is over, and the masks come down, love is gone. When you experience Pure Love, it is infinite, without hesitation, interruption or question. It just is - and can do nothing other than express itself through you - without conditions or repression of any kind.
If I give so much to others, isn't that Pure Love?
Does your giving and giving ever leave you drained, depressed or needing something for yourself? If the answer is yes, then you are not experiencing Pure Love. You can have the biggest heart in the world and give generously to every one else but if that love does not overflow out of self-love, it is definitely not Pure Love. Many people put others before themselves because they are empty inside and their giving needs something in return. If giving to others ever drains you, it is a clear message that you need to redirect your giving to yourself by putting your needs and desires first and foremost. This is not selfish - it is Self Full! Giving to others must come from a full self otherwise it has expectations attached to it - which become unspoken conditions. Your expectations might be that others act the way you think they should act or that they meet your emotional needs in some way. Remember, when you need something from someone else, you are only giving love to get love - which is not Pure Love at all. Pure Love needs NOTHING from anyone - ever. Love yourself first unconditionally and then your love towards others will be bottomless and rejuvenating.
Only when you love yourself first can others truly feel loved by you - otherwise they will consciously or unconsciously feel your emptiness, neediness and expectation - and experience your giving as an unspoken contract of some sort. In other words, they feel that if they accept your love, something is expected from them in return. This explains why people may shut some "givers" out of their lives in one way or another - they are protecting themselves from emotional vampires masquerading as givers. Harsh? Maybe but true nonetheless.
When you are full of self-love, you will truly experience more love from others as well. If you ever feel unloved, it is likely because you are filtering others love for you through your emotional needs. When you use love to fulfill your needs and fill yourself up inside, you never experience it as Pure Love. If you are already full inside, the love you receive is genuinely absorbed by you - because love can only be absorbed and felt through love. When love hits emptiness, it becomes empty. When love hits love, it becomes even more love.
How do I love myself unconditionally?
Pure Love intrinsically knows that everywhere we look we only see ourselves and if we can not love all that we see and experience, it is because we are not really loving ourselves. You cannot purely love another until you love yourself unconditionally. If you put any conditions on your self-love, you are denying yourself and love ceases to flow. If you believe that you can't love yourself until someone forgives you, you lose weight, you make more money or anything else, your self-love is conditional. Conditional self-love is not love at all. Unconditional means nothing (I do mean nothing) hinders your love for yourself. You are lovable right now - no matter what. In fact, if you don't love yourself right now, even if all your current conditions are met, you will sadly discover that you still don't love yourself and you have set even more unrealistic conditions. The conditions are a distraction and come from a fear based belief system. What are you afraid will happen when you truly love yourself unconditionally right now? Are you ultimately afraid that you will be too powerful for yourself and others? Many believe this. It's true that in your current limited state of conditional self-love, you wouldn't be able to handle the enormous power and strength that comes directly from unconditional self-love but as you continue to choose self-love day after day and minute after minute, you will effortlessly grow into the person who is capable of handling and expressing all your intrinsic power. This is the Secret to creating a fun, rich, exciting and effortless life. This life awaits you.
Pure love of another needs intrinsic power to fuel her. Intrinsic power is indestructible and comes from knowing who you really are and loving yourself unconditionally. Love is nothing without this power and power is nothing without Love. Only when Love and Power dance together in unison - in oneness, can Love grow abundantly and be experienced as the amazing gift it truly is.
My wish for you is to accept this gift with open arms.
Peace and Love from Me to You!
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